Red flags your dating a player
The tell-tale signs of whether or not he'll be a good match for you.
In the online dating game, wouldn't you like to be able to tell right off the bat if a guy will be a good match for you?
See, when women think of red flags, most times we’re looking for signs of baby mama drama, financial instability, or flirtatious ways in a man.
We’re looking for clues that let us know that he’s a cheater or untrustworthy, but many times, we overlook those subtle hints of emotional instability that will almost always leave us with a broken heart–or at least some worked nerves.
Granted, I’d have to give the brother an “A” for style and originality, but when I said to her, “Wow, he must be paid! He’s living with his mother right now, but he just really likes me.” All I could think was, 'This fool must have fallen and bumped her head.
I understand it may have been a flattering gesture, but don’t reward a man with attention and praise for foolishness.' Now, if he has no problem affording lavish gifts, that’s another story.
His idea of a date is really just a thinly veiled sexual euphemism.
Nowadays, if a man tells me he often changes his mind and is indecisive, I take that as my queue to run for the hills. I wasn’t as knowledgeable as I was when I first met Mr. He seemed like a good catch, but slowly I started to notice his indecisiveness in small things.
For instance, he would want to eat at a certain restaurant and then change his mind after we got there. Eventually, those small things turned to big things. He was a retired NFL player and was looking for his next big endeavor. One minute he wanted to open up his own business, days later he wanted to coach football professionally at a college; then less than a week later, he’d come up with a whole new vision for his life.
Seriously, he changed his mind so much, I couldn’t keep up.
This all happened within only a month of us ‘getting to know each other’. Eventually, he finally decided that he needed to take some time to figure out what he wanted to do, but one thing he claimed he was sure of is that he wanted a relationship and to get married soon. The next week he had decided that he didn’t want to get married or settle down until he was in his forties.