Sick of dating games
Love should be taken more seriously than it is, but this is why I’ll play along if it means finding something real: At some point, we all agreed to this. Men didn’t fake an interest to get you into bed, and technology didn’t rule your love life. Modern dating has turned into some sick and twisted game with every player out for themselves.That part of the game actually sounds nice — that is, if I’m lucky enough to find a good partner. If I’m going to play this game, then I can’t play dumb.Finding the right teammate is going to be rewarding when it happens, but the process of getting there is going to be tough. Every man is looking out for himself, which means every woman should be doing the same. I have to read between the lines, spot the red flags, and stop BS in its tracks. People always ask me why I am still single, I get all the popular comments, like “Oh, that’s a shame, still single at your age”. There is nothing wrong with me, I’m athletic, been told I am attractive, outgoing, and I enjoy sports, and all sorts of out door activities, and have a great circle of friends, so why after all this time have I not met anyone? I’ve dated on and off for a few months to a year, only to have things crash and burn for one reason or another. I’ve tried the online dating, only to become seriously jaded by it all. I’m tired of friends telling me that when I least expect it, I will meet someone great, well, I have not been expecting it, and it never came. 🙁 Dear Lauren, I’m reminded of a story that Rich Gosse, the founder of American Singles, once shared with me. I’m 42, and have never been married, and I guess that I have been dating idiots, or men who are not even dating material for the last 10 years.DEAR AMY: My 24-year-old daughter just graduated from college after a difficult journey and several false starts. This summer she plans to work as a teacher's assistant at her college, then move out of state and find a job.
I understand the frustrations some people have with texting because I am guilty of over texting.Follow @Canoe Lifestyle DEAR AMY: Why do so many women play games on these dating sites? Why do all the women go for the Tom Cruises and the Brad Pitts of the world? -- A Good Guy DEAR GOOD GUY: Quick story: Back in the Pleistocene era when I was a middle-aged single mom, I went out with a guy who told me during our date that he had a profile up on a well-known dating site. (And, as adorable as he is, I'm not sure any woman really wants Tom Cruise right now.) It's just the way it is.I have to laugh when I read their profiles and they say, "I'm real! The age range of women this 45-year-old man was interested in dating was 23 to 33. And, while we're at it, why do so many men post 10-year-old pictures of themselves standing next to speedboats? Some online matching sites are better than others at attracting "real people." Use the site that best matches your personality.As a woman with challenges in intimacy the text allows me to seem like I care without actually having to care.To be honest, I just don’t feel like I have the time to devote all of my brain cells to a phone call.